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How to Build Instant Rapport

From Brett & Kate McKay on the Art of Manliness web site:

The best approach when first presenting yourself to another is . . . to allow the fundamental pieces of your personality to come to the fore, while minimizing the minor differences between you that might lead either participant to prematurely write the other one off.

The McKays give some helpful tips for rapport-generating behaviours:

  1. match voice and vocabulary;
  2. mirror body language;
  3. dress similarly; and
  4. don’t be a contrarian.

The article expands on each. It is a good read.